Sitting back and not making any effort is easy but it is not going to allow you to move forward. The environment that you put yourself in everyday and the people you surround yourself with plays such an important role in your personal development that if you truly want to see improvement in your attitude, habits and mindset you have to put yourself in a place where that is possible. Sometimes that means removing yourself from a situation and finding something else that sparks joy in your life.
For me, I used to feel bad for people who constantly think negative and don’t make any efforts to find solutions because they were feeling sorry for themselves. I used to feel bad because I didn’t like seeing them in that dark place. Then I started to realize that if they weren’t going to make any effort to change something, then it really wasn’t going to matter how much they complained or felt upset about their situation. Feeling bad wasn’t the correct way of looking at it because I would only be allowing my own feelings to be affected by their issues. It’s okay to be there for someone but you don’t have to feel bad for them. You can encourage them and be a strong role model for them but at the end of the day it is their choice when they are going to decide to be ready for change. I like to look at situations like this as an opportunity to show how exciting life can actually be by introducing them to a more positive way of thinking. If they don’t take to it, I try not to blame myself for their choices. Sometimes it is hard to do that especially when you care for someone deeply but only they can make the choice to improve themselves, just as only you can make the choice to improve yourself. That being said, surround yourself with people who are positive and goal oriented. People who are proactive in coming up with solutions to problems instead of blaming others or feeling sorry for themselves. People who are motivated in their own goals and honest with you and themselves when it matters most. These are the type of people you want to be influenced by so that you can work on being the best version of yourself. This is the type of positive environment you want to be part of.